‘Your mother was the real cheater’: After Woman Blames Divorce on ‘Cheating Husband’ to Her Children, Her Sister Gets Involved and Reveals the Truth

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jul 29, 2024 3:00 PM EDT

Welcome back internet queens and kings. The thing about lying, is that once you lie once about something so big, it opens a door of paranoia for the person you lied to. They have no reason to believe that the liar has changed, or that there aren't more things they've lied about. If one's willing to lie about cheating on their partner, why wouldn't they have lied about many other things? It's a slippery slope, and is basically a death sentence in a relationship. Without trust, there can never be healthy stability or respect. 

Lying is one thing, cheating is one thing, but the combination is like a double whammy of disrespect and outright betrayal. How on earth can someone get over something like that? And more importantly, why should they? In this particular Reddit story, not only did this woman lie and cheat, she tried to blame it all on her husband and turn her children against him. Everyone makes mistakes, but this is just emblematic of her character, and it isn't pretty. 

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    r/AITAH 21 hr. ago Particular-Garden155 AITA for Telling My Sister's Kids the Real Reason She Got Divorced?
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    My sister, Lisa, (36F) just divorced her husband, Tom, (38M) It wasnt a really messy affair although there was some mudslinging on both sides. She's been running around telling everybody he had an affair, but the truth of the matter is that she's been having affairs for years. He finally found out and decided to end things.
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    Only a few family members know this, and we've all kept quiet to protect her.
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    Lisa and Tom have two children: Jake, 15M, and Emma, 12F. They have not been handling the divorce well and have acted out quite a bit. Lisa has been portraying herself as the victim, and because of this, the children resent Tom. They won't even want to see him, and when they do, they are openly hostile during the
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    very limited time they have together.
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    Last weekend, I had Jake and Emma over when they first began to vent about their dad. I tried to be objective with them, but they just kept hammering. Jake said, "Mom told us Dad cheated on her and that is why they split up. I hate him for breaking up our family."
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    Exasperated, I blurted, "Your dad isn't the cheater. It is your mom who has been deceiving you." Well, they were obviously in shock and wanted more. And I told them everything.
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    When Lisa found out, she was furious. She said I had betrayed her and put her children in an even worse position than they were in before. My mom said I did the right thing. My dad thinks I should have kept quiet. Tom is glad it's all out in the open, though he, too, thinks it should have been Lisa who had to tell the truth.
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    Now, Jake and Emma are both bewildered and upset at both of us. They're not talking to Lisa, and that's been very painful for her. She says I've destroyed her relationship with her kids, that I'll never know what it's like to want to protect your kids from a painful truth.
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    So, AITA for telling my sister's kids the real reason that she got divorced?
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    DawnShakhar • 20h ago NTA. Lisa wasn't protecting her kids from a painful truth - she was lying in order to paint herself in a positive light, and by doing that she alienated them from their father.
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    In principle I'm against giving children information about their parents' and reasons for divorce. However, there is one life exception to that principle - when one parent lies to the children and alienates them from the other parent. In that case, everyone has the
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    responsibility to correct the lie and tell the truth - for the sake of the children and for the sake of the victimised parent. You did well to tell the truth here.
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    Dresden_Mouse • 20h ago NTA She's was lying to alienate their dad, she deserves the consequences of her actions
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    i284u74838i2 • 21h ago NTA shes so upset that youve ruined her relationship with her kids but had no issue doing that to her ex. first she has an affair, and then she turns his own children against him.
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    what a b*tch. you did the right thing.
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    Wrong_Moose_9... • 21h ago "Tom is grateful that the truth is out, but he also thinks it should have come from Lisa." So he expects the lying cheater to all of a sudden start telling the truth, yeah no. NTA
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    Level-Tangerine-... 20h ago protect your kids from a painful truth. I'm sorry? Where was this concern for protecting her kids when she lied about her husband cheating? Let's say, hypothetically, he had cheated. If she was so
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    concerned with "protecting" her kids she would have kept that to herself and told her kids some generic story about how things didn't work out, which, by the way, many parents do when they get divorced. The only person your sister was interested in protecting was herself. NTA.
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    NovaPrime 1988 • 21h ago Lisa ruined her relationship with her children by not being honest and lying about their father. You told them the truth. NTA
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    CQWife •20h ago NTA. You didn't ruin anything. She did. Here, she goes playing the victim again. Telling them the truth should have come from their Mom, but that obviously was never going to happen.
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    Speaking of "protecting" the kids. How was she protecting anyone, BUT HERSELF, by lying to her children about which parent cheated!!??
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    Alienating a parent is wrong, especially when you know they're a good person.
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